The holiday season brings with it so many things: cocktail parties, , ugly sweater parties, gifts and, of course, houseguests. While we love our friends and family, there are a few pet peeves that remind us why we usually only play host once a year.
Whether it's dominating the one bathroom for a long, long shower, or deciding to use the living room-adjacent powder room for, um, more involved bathroom breaks, being conscientious about etiquette in this space is a must.
In your own home, you wouldn't necessarily mind leaving an old coffee cup on the counter. In someone else's home, you're basically treating your hosts as a maid service.
On the other end of the spectrum comes a phenomenon called passive-aggressive cleaning. This is when you, say, vacuum the rugs, when you haven't been asked to. Extra points if there's a remark like, "See how much dirt there was in the carpets?"
The last few hours before a houseguest arrives are the most frantic. There's a final clean sweep, maybe some last-second shopping because you forgot to pick up extra soap and toilet paper. Showing up early, unannounced, throws off this already-hectic prep work.
We have heard far too many horror stories of guests leaving doors unlocked (!), coffee makers on all day (!!) and other oversights that could spell disaster for everyone involved.
It's a small thing, but it's on the same level as leaving your dirty dishes out for your host to clean up. We're not running a hotel, here.
It's one thing to help pick up the mail, it's another to go through the stack and remark on another person's bills.
Your host wants to make sure your stay is comfortable, so nothing's worse than finding out your guest can't eat virtually anything in your pantry or refrigerator. Of course, accommodations should be within reason. Allergies are a must-know, while your distaste for onions is something that should be kept to yourself.
There are few situations as odd as having a houseguest you never hear or see. It leads your host to wonder if they were supposed to serve as social director, or if they offended you in some way, or if you're even in there at all.
Of course, this is the opposite problem: A guest that takes an invitation to your home as an invitation to treat everyone to never-ending monologues.
Every home is different about taking one's shoes off, but if you see a basket by the door and everyone else is in socks ... follow suit.